Traditionally and historically in the Indian culture, it has always been the sons and their wives who looked after their parents, both financially and physically. Old people were and still are highly respected and known to be wise, so it’s very rare that they are sent to care homes. This is one of the main reasons why the birth of a boy is so highly celebrated and highly regarded as opposed to girls.

Is this still the case in today’s society that son’s are expected to look after the parents more than the daughters? Or should it be more shared amongst all children whether son or daughter?  We have heard stories where some daughter in laws feel they have the majority of work, even more than the sons.  Or the other way round, perhaps you feel your brother and sister in law aren’t doing their bit to look after your parents and you have to do it all. Seems like care homes are becoming more widely accepted in today’s society, although some people still think it’s a taboo.  What do you think?

We would love to hear from you. Have you been affected by any issues regarding this subject? Maybe you still feel that the traditional way is best? Maybe this subject has affected your marriage, children, and/or mental health? Let us chat so we can help each other.


    • Anon
    • October 8, 2017

    We have a responsibility to look after our parents and our elders. i live with my in-laws and they help look after their grandchildren, and i help look after them. It’s teamwork. I know there is a lot of situations when it is different but i think it’s all about your attitude to it. My brother and his wife however don’t look after my parents. My parents live alone and although they are independent, I find it sad that they don’t do their part. They have raised us from small babies and it’s only fair we repay them when we are older, otherwise what is the point? All you want when you’re older is your family around you.

    • Anonymous
    • October 8, 2017

    We should always look after our parents wether it’s your own or your spouses as much as you can. I understand with working lives etc it can be hard, but even 1 visit a week can mean so much. I will never comprehend how people can dis-own their own parents after everything they have done for their children.

    • anonymous
    • July 22, 2019

    I totally agree with looking after parents and think it’s very important however I think this should be done with the intention of the married couple having their space. I think if in-laws are able to look after themselves close by until they can’t look after themselves and need to move in. However moving in also means it’s important for the married couple to have space and privacy. So having 2 separate living rooms where you can get away and have family time. I think it’s important to have a good balance of couple time and then family time.

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